How to Get Over a Broken Relationship Quickly
Breakups are hard, but they’re inevitable at times.
Broken relationships change everything you have ever thought you knew about love. You go through a myriad of emotions. Some days are better than others. You ask yourself what you did wrong. What you should have done differently. Did you give your relationship all the fighting chances it needed before calling it quits?
What’s the Answer?
And sometimes you can’t find a clear answer. So, you soak yourself in a puddle of tears, crying yourself to sleep. Breaking up with a person you thought you had a future with, and even had a family together hurts so deep that you can’t find the appropriate words to describe it.
Where do broken hearts go? You wonder. If you only knew where they go, you would take yours and leave it so that you won't have to deal with sadness and the loss that comes with a breakup.
But you can't rip your heart off your chest and dump it. You must find a way to deal with broken hearts, heal the wounds, and move on (as if nothing happened).
There are times you miss your ex so bad that you catch yourself wanting to talk to them.
However, every cloud has a silver lining. Sometimes breaking up from toxic relationships is the only way to rediscover yourself and pursue the things that matter to you most.
If you are in the trenches of a break up I want you to know that it is possible to go through it, heal, and come out the other side better and stronger than ever.
There’s always of a beam of light and glim of hope at the other side of the tunnel.
Yes, breakup sucks and continues sucking until it never sucks anymore.
However, there are things you can do to help you get over your ex, heal your emotional wounds, and move on to the next phase of life.
Is there a way to avoid a breakup?
There are no perfect ways to avoid a breakup. Sometimes no matter what you do or don’t do, you can still experience a heartbreak following a breakup. There are no guarantees in life. You can't control the other person. You hope for the best and prepare for the worst at all times.
If you ever wash up in the shores of heartbreak, here's is what you can do to get over your ex.
How to get over your ex
*Allow your soul to feel your feelings.
When you break up with a person, all sorts of emotions will flood your heart. It's a trauma that will shock your entire system. You feel sad, depressed, lost, and finally, you accept that it has happened and you can’t change anything.
It would be best if you were gentle with yourself as you experience these feelings. Don't go into denial. Face the matter head-on. Cry all you want, but don't dwell there.
Remember, your future is not tied to a person who left. The fact that somebody left you doesn't mean you are a terrible person. They left because their part in your story is over.
It's okay to mourn like somebody who has lost something valuable because it's true you have lost something dear to you.
But life must go on, and the future belongs to those who prepare for it. So, cry, moan, yell, and then wipe your tears, dust yourself off, and put your glove back on. Better days are ahead of you.
*Stop communicating with your ex, at least until you heal.
The reason why breakups hurt so bad is because the feel-good hormones you used to get from your partner are not there anymore.
When your partner is not there anymore, you start longing for the feel-good hormones. You are tempted to strike a conversation.
If you yield to these feelings, you’ll have a grim struggle as you try to move forward. You’ll be stuck for months or even years before moving forward.
Ceasing to communicate with your ex is a healthy start to moving on because it will help you break any attachment you may still be having to your ex. You can still check out on each other briefly, but don't make it a habit.
Every time you speak to your ex, you are opening up old attachments, and your aim is to break them, not strengthening them.
*Get a support system.
Call three or four people who care deeply about you and let them understand what you are going through. Many people love you and want to give you moral and emotional support, but they can't know until you open up your heart.
Opening up to other people gives you relief like nothing else. You feel like a load has been taken off your shoulders. You feel much lighter because you'll find someone else who has gone through what you are going through, and will be sharing their experiences with you.
Knowing that you are not alone in this will strengthen your resolve to come out stronger.
*Talk to a Break Up Coach
You need to talk to someone who is willing to walk the journey with you.
Sometimes the people in your life who love you so much don’t know how to help you because for one, they might be sinking themselves. And two, they may be stamped because they aren’t professionals.
But there’s someone who’s not only qualified by personal experience, but who will give you all the time you need to open up. Willing to walk with you to recovery.
Life coaches are there to help you come out of a break up stronger and ready to live a better life.
No matter how much pain you experience, have faith that this, too, shall pass. You have weathered many storms to get to where you are right now, and this will not be any different.
Time is a healer, and you're going to look back and wonder why you were hurting so bad when you both called it a day.
Try to see the positive side of it. Focus on the excitement of starting again with no strings attached, regardless of the challenges you face.
In the meantime, I hope you believe that your wounds will heal.
Need help? Reach out and lets chat. My name is Sabrena Sharonne and I am a certified relationships Life Coach